If I have an issue with something, I usually use this website to explore strategies for making things better. But this week I don’t feel like exploring solutions, and I don’t feel like hiding my raw nerves behind a second person commiserate article. I don’t feel like doing that this week. And I don’t feel like hiding my raw nerves behind a second person commiserate post.
I recently learned about a study that tested the best way to become proficient at a task. They did this by looking at how two groups of people learned to make clay pots. In one corner you have the ‘studiers’ who were asked to spend the majority of their allotted time researching best practices, new techniques, etc. In the other corner you have the ‘doers’ who were asked to spend their entire allotted time making pots and learning on the go.
I’ve been stressed out lately. And if you read my last article, you probably know why. But, as I’ve mentioned before, when I’m at my best I can create a stunning symphony of productivity and efficiency.
Planning a wedding is the worst thing you can do with your time...unless you’re a planner and getting paid for it. When you get engaged, everyone who is already married will try to warn you about this. LISTEN TO THEM. (I’m sorry I didn’t listen Megan). Weddings are so incredibly frustrating, and once you place the first deposit, it feels too damn late to turn back.
My dad has never been shy about sharing his opinions (there’s no question where I get it from). And multitasking is a subject he feels very strongly about. If I had a nickel for every time he (without prompt) said, “there’s no such thing as multitasking, there is only doing multiple things badly,” I would make Warren Buffet quake with the sheer magnitude of my wealth.
The myth that ‘you have to be a massive success before 30 or you’re nothing’ really got to me. Instead of dealing with it head on, I locked my fears in a deep, dark place and let them grow until everything around me seemed dark.
You don’t even need to explain to the other person why they’re getting phased out. The honesty is for you, whether you share it is your decision. The important thing is to get toxic people out of your life.
I’ve finally made some consistent, measurable headway on my goals, and I thought I’d share what’s working. I can’t promise it will work for you, but if you find anything that helps even a little bit, I’m living up to the promise of this website.