I’m not sure about everyone else, but in my family, quitting your job without a “backup plan” (aka not having another job to go to) is something you just don’t do. Having a job is far more important than whatever fulfillment you get (or don’t get) from that job. I was trained early on that you could quit… as long as you had something stable to fall back on. I used to believe this too. I used to think that it didn’t matter if I was miserable at my job, I was lucky I had one at all.
If you’ve followed this blog for any amount of time, you know that I have a tendency to make big, impulsive decisions without always stopping to think of the possible consequences. The benefit of this is that when I let my passion lead without pausing to let my fear stop me, more often than not, good things happen. But it also means that when bad things happen, they can be disastrous.
When I feel overwhelmed, I imagine myself as a bricklayer. I try not to picture the finished project or every painstaking step it will take to get there. Imagining that kind of immense scale will give you vertigo.
I’ve finally made some consistent, measurable headway on my goals, and I thought I’d share what’s working. I can’t promise it will work for you, but if you find anything that helps even a little bit, I’m living up to the promise of this website.
Let me introduce you to the biggest lie I tell myself: “there’s no point in doing it when I’m not feeling it, I’ll hold off now and wait until I feel motivated.” And I tell it to myself over and over...and over.
I assume that every millennial – minus the ones named Thad or Bethany, whose daddy owns a yacht – feels insecure about all retail experience listed on their resume when it’s time to (try to) transition to a real job. I know I did.
When I tell people what I do, the next question is usually about what I did in school. When I tell them I studied neuroscience, their reaction is always surprise.
Ok, I get that I’ve made it clear that I’m not into the 9-5 thing and that I will do anything I can to avoid going back to that place. But, there are plenty of people that I’ve talked to who want nothing more than to be employed somewhere that a name-tag is not required, but who aren’t ready to strike out on their own. I understand that. I was that person a little less than 3 years ago.
One of my major goals this year is to find balance in every area of my life. When I explain my goals to people, it’s the first thing everyone tells me I need. It's at the point where, if I still lived with my parents, I would be afraid they would try and carve the word 'balance' in my skin while I sleep.