The day I’m writing this, I was up before the sun. WAY before. I jumped out of bed at 4:30 am, went for a run, and completed a strength training workout before walking the dog and starting my workday.
Lately, when I have a moment to think, the same thing pops into my mind: marshmallows. No, this isn’t another article about my obsession with food. Although fittingly, I have to put an almost herculean effort into not eating marshmallows if they’re in my eyeline. But if you want to dive into that rabbit hole,... Continue Reading →
I’m not sure about everyone else, but in my family, quitting your job without a “backup plan” (aka not having another job to go to) is something you just don’t do. Having a job is far more important than whatever fulfillment you get (or don’t get) from that job. I was trained early on that you could quit… as long as you had something stable to fall back on. I used to believe this too. I used to think that it didn’t matter if I was miserable at my job, I was lucky I had one at all.
When I feel overwhelmed, I imagine myself as a bricklayer. I try not to picture the finished project or every painstaking step it will take to get there. Imagining that kind of immense scale will give you vertigo.
I recently learned about a study that tested the best way to become proficient at a task. They did this by looking at how two groups of people learned to make clay pots. In one corner you have the ‘studiers’ who were asked to spend the majority of their allotted time researching best practices, new techniques, etc. In the other corner you have the ‘doers’ who were asked to spend their entire allotted time making pots and learning on the go.
My dad has never been shy about sharing his opinions (there’s no question where I get it from). And multitasking is a subject he feels very strongly about. If I had a nickel for every time he (without prompt) said, “there’s no such thing as multitasking, there is only doing multiple things badly,” I would make Warren Buffet quake with the sheer magnitude of my wealth.
You don’t even need to explain to the other person why they’re getting phased out. The honesty is for you, whether you share it is your decision. The important thing is to get toxic people out of your life.
I’ve finally made some consistent, measurable headway on my goals, and I thought I’d share what’s working. I can’t promise it will work for you, but if you find anything that helps even a little bit, I’m living up to the promise of this website.