As far as I know, my sister and I are the only ones in our generation of the family who want kids. She already has two, and I’m still trying to figure out the timing. But our cousins, for one reason or another, have all decided that having kids isn’t part of their life plan.
Since it’s the month of love, I was inspired to explore what makes a relationship good and what can tank a relationship faster than Cupid can reload his bow.
What makes me an expert?
It may be socially unacceptable to admit, but we all hate someone.
When you can avoid that person, it isn’t so bad.
But when circumstance forces you to see that person on a regular basis, it can take a big toll on your sanity.
If you’ve followed this blog for any amount of time, you know that I have a tendency to make big, impulsive decisions without always stopping to think of the possible consequences. The benefit of this is that when I let my passion lead without pausing to let my fear stop me, more often than not, good things happen.
But it also means that when bad things happen, they can be disastrous.
I recently learned about a study that tested the best way to become proficient at a task. They did this by looking at how two groups of people learned to make clay pots.
In one corner you have the ‘studiers’ who were asked to spend the majority of their allotted time researching best practices, new techniques, etc.
In the other corner you have the ‘doers’ who were asked to spend their entire allotted time making pots and learning on the go.
Planning a wedding is the worst thing you can do with your time...unless you’re a planner and getting paid for it.
When you get engaged, everyone who is already married will try to warn you about this. LISTEN TO THEM. (I’m sorry I didn’t listen Megan).
Weddings are so incredibly frustrating, and once you place the first deposit, it feels too damn late to turn back.