The day I’m writing this, I was up before the sun. WAY before. I jumped out of bed at 4:30 am, went for a run, and completed a strength training workout before walking the dog and starting my workday.
Lately, when I have a moment to think, the same thing pops into my mind: marshmallows. No, this isn’t another article about my obsession with food. Although fittingly, I have to put an almost herculean effort into not eating marshmallows if they’re in my eyeline. But if you want to dive into that rabbit hole,... Continue Reading →
I’m not sure about everyone else, but in my family, quitting your job without a “backup plan” (aka not having another job to go to) is something you just don’t do. Having a job is far more important than whatever fulfillment you get (or don’t get) from that job. I was trained early on that you could quit… as long as you had something stable to fall back on. I used to believe this too. I used to think that it didn’t matter if I was miserable at my job, I was lucky I had one at all.
When I feel overwhelmed, I imagine myself as a bricklayer. I try not to picture the finished project or every painstaking step it will take to get there. Imagining that kind of immense scale will give you vertigo.
I recently learned about a study that tested the best way to become proficient at a task. They did this by looking at how two groups of people learned to make clay pots. In one corner you have the ‘studiers’ who were asked to spend the majority of their allotted time researching best practices, new techniques, etc. In the other corner you have the ‘doers’ who were asked to spend their entire allotted time making pots and learning on the go.
I’ve finally made some consistent, measurable headway on my goals, and I thought I’d share what’s working. I can’t promise it will work for you, but if you find anything that helps even a little bit, I’m living up to the promise of this website.
Let me introduce you to the biggest lie I tell myself: “there’s no point in doing it when I’m not feeling it, I’ll hold off now and wait until I feel motivated.” And I tell it to myself over and over...and over.
Ok, I get that I’ve made it clear that I’m not into the 9-5 thing and that I will do anything I can to avoid going back to that place. But, there are plenty of people that I’ve talked to who want nothing more than to be employed somewhere that a name-tag is not required, but who aren’t ready to strike out on their own. I understand that. I was that person a little less than 3 years ago.
One of my major goals this year is to find balance in every area of my life. When I explain my goals to people, it’s the first thing everyone tells me I need. It's at the point where, if I still lived with my parents, I would be afraid they would try and carve the word 'balance' in my skin while I sleep.